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e-dating™ STORIES •
Anecdotes & Advice
So, I put it out to the universe and figured someday he'd
show up on my doorstep...well with email the world is at your
doorstep so pretty good odds, right? I've thought about dropping
off dating sites in the past. I wasn't sure it was the right
way to find what I'm looking for. In the end though, I've
decided that while you can't predict when lightning will strike,
it doesn't hurt to put up lightning rods.
"I wish it were really so."
When a friend posted a profile that said, "I enjoy running
and training 3 times per week." I challenged her pointing
out that she had not been running in months and although she'd
like to train 3 times a week her work schedule rarely permitted
it. I said, "The last thing you want is for some super jock
to meet you, eventually find out the truth and think you deliberately
lied to impress him." I suggested perhaps it would be more
accurate to say. My work schedule keeps me busy but I like
to run and I try to train 3 times per week. What's interesting
is she ended up dating an athlete anyway.
Embarrassed me?
Even though I had had months of quality e-dating experience,
when my boss discretely told me that another colleague swore
he saw my name on an internet site, panic cringed my insides.
I was shocked, embarrassed and unsure how to respond since
there's no shortage of rumor mills at my office. It took a
few moments for the stun to wear off before I asked "Really
who said that?" When he told me, my answer was clear. "That's
impossible! He couldn't have seen my name on a dating website
site, profiles are anonymous. It is possible he recognized
a photo though. I've had great luck attracting dates with
my photos. But the real question is, what was he doing surfing
dating sites on company time, as far as I know he's still
married, right?"
Will you be safe or sorry?
One of my close friends met a woman on line who suggested
he drive to the next city to meet her the same week; she even
offered to let him stay overnight. When he arrived she'd had
a case of nerves and left him a key to her house to let himself
in. It boggles the mind how a thirty something, university
educated, professional woman would give a virtual stranger
a key to her home and leave him there with free time to rummage
around her personal belongings, not to mention give opportunity
for theft. Even more surprising was that she really did have
him stay the whole weekend. Thankfully he was a man of honour;
however there is no justification for leaving oneself that
vulnerable to potential thieves, sexual predators and stalkers.
Some things are better revealed in person
He seemed like such an intriguing love match and we seemed
to have a lot in common. I thought he looked really "hot"
and we began a dialogue. On-line long distance conversations
rapidly turned to the sensual and we explored sensual chemistry
by phone discussing likes and dislikes. He blew it when he
sent an unsolicited picture and an offer to have a plane ticket
waiting at the airport. It wasn't that the explic-"it" shot
wasn't a fine specimen but I was rather shocked! I couldn't
help but wonder what kind of a man would send such photo's
to a virtual stranger? Was he oversexed or undersexed? Did
he really have to prove his manhood? Was he too proud of "it"?
What kind of a woman would he expect or not respect me to
be?
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